Relationship before marriage

Marriage is about compromise, meaning the art of negotiation is an essential skill.Our decision-making model is vital because it indicates how egalitarian our relationship is.Marriage is the proposal, the ring and, of course, all the planning for the big day. But getting married isn't really about the wedding day, it's about the quality of the marriage that follows. So how do you get started on the right foot?There are some  important issues couples need to discuss before getting hitched.

At first,it’s about Decision-making model. You need to make sure your partner agrees with you about how an ideal relationship should work. Sharing important decisions and deciding together who should decide what takes strong listening, negotiating and problem-solving skills. You may not be perfect at it, but you need to know what you're working toward.

Secondly,it’s about Chore and task-sharing. Do you plan to take care of the laundry, while your man takes responsibility for outdoor tasks like mowing the lawn? Don't just assume you know how these responsibilities will be divvied up. Talk about them.Roles in relationships have been changing for the past few decades, and gender roles differ from one family to another.Talking about it before marriage can give you a foundation on which to build later discussions if and when you find you aren't happy with the status quo.

Thirdly,it’s about  Children. Do you both want children? If so, how many? And once you've got your little brood, how do you intend to raise them? While you might assume that children are an obvious part of a marriage, your partner may feel differently. This is a very important issue and you need to take it seriously.

Apart from that,it’s about Careers.Career paths often change over time, so you want to know that your partner is going to respect your need to make decisions about yours with his input and respect, and expect your input on his.Look for a flexible, sharing and respectful attitude.

Lastly,it’s about Time together and apart.Do you envision yourself spending Saturday nights snuggling with your honey on the couch, watching movies and enjoying quality time together? Your partner may have a different idea about how to spend Saturday nights. Discuss these things and don't fall into the trap of making assumptions about your partner's preferences. This can lead to unnecessary disappointment.